Today I want to share with you a powerful tip to tackle this ugly beast called “self-doubt”.
You see, when you look at people at the top of their field, the successful ones or the ones who live the life you aspire to, you might think that they are very self-confident
with no money worries.
At least that is what is projected to us.
But here is the thing: no-one really can fully eliminate self-doubt.
I know I can’t.
Whenever you are faced with a new situation, a new problem or challenge, you automatically ask yourself: ” Can I do it?”
“Am I capable of achieving this”.
“Would I make a fool of myself”? etc.
I have plenty of self doubt whenever I start something new and unknown or when I am thrown in a situation where I don’t have prior experience of dealing with it.
Think back when you first enter primary school, secondary school, university or at your first job out of college.
Don’t you have some butterflies or some doubt about how things would turned out for you?
I don’t think you can fully eliminate self doubt from the mind.
It is natural to feel uneasy and question your own ability when you are thrown into an unknown situation or problem.
The only thing we can do is learn how to manage and reduce it.
And here is how:
Space cannot be occupied by two objects at the same time.
For example if you sit in front of your computer, you occupy that space.
So no one else can sit at the same spot as you do.
Same principle when you want to manage self-doubt.
If you indulge in self-doubt, indulge in worries, start judging yourself and let other negative thoughts enter your mind, there is no room for other thoughts to come in.
The positive thoughts are sitting outside and they want to enter your mind, but they can’t.
The space has been occupied by their negative counterpart.
You see, if no two things can occupy the same space, then the choice is clear:
Do you want to continue indulging in self worries and self doubt or do you want to start thinking how you want to prepare for the challenge?
Don’t beat yourself up when you start doubting yourself. It is OK.
Give yourself 5-10 seconds to feel sorry and pity for yourself.
After 10 seconds stop that thought and throw all your attention to resolving the situation or problem instead.
If you consciously start to reduce the time spent in doubting yourself, you automatically build the habit of not indulging and naturally your mind will start looking for ways to solve the issue.
The key is to catch yourself whenever you start dwelling in self doubt and worries and immediately bombard your mind with good and positive thoughts to occupy the space in your mind.
So the negative ones cannot enter it anymore :).
Either you worry about it or do something about it.
You can only do one thing at any one time [tweetherder][/tweetherder]