Did you have any obstacles in your life?
I bet you and I have at one point or another we were faced with disappointments, frustration and embarrassment.
It could how people treat you, financial problems, difficulty getting a job, difficulty getting that coveted promotion, additional expenses..the list goes on and on.
We got bogged down with all this little details/problems on a daily basis and it certainly adds up to a size able amount!
So how should we deal with all these little fires waiting for us to extinguish?
Below are 3 simple tips to help you step over your challenge:
1. Identify the source of the problem.
– Let say you have difficulty getting that promotion at work – Is it because you didn’t have the necessary skills or experience? – Then take on some relevant courses, seminars or training workshops to develop or improve that skill.
– Or is it because you haven’t take on new projects to prove your competence and initiative?- Whenever you have free time, ask for new projects and challenges in order to develop your experience and also to prove that you have initiative.
– Or should you do more networking within your company? Attend meetings, conferences and events held by your company, your professional or social associations.
– Need to get more involved in meetings? Speak up more and prepare questions to ask if you need to do so.
2. Identify the constraints.
In the case of finances, what prevents you from paying your bills on time?
Lack of funds?- Figure out where your expenses goes every month and tackle them head on with a budget.
Use a simple Excel spreadsheet to track your expenses.
Going out every other day? Try going out on weekends and eat at home during the week.
Spend too much money on bank fees?
Do comparison shopping or try to negotiate with your bank to get lower fees or even get your fees waived.
3. Limiting Beliefs.
Sometimes when we take action but cannot see the results commensurate with our efforts, it is time to reflect and re-evaluate whether our subconscious beliefs can be sabotaging our efforts.
For example, let’s say you try to lose weight and you have bought all the diet books, you have limit your calorie intake, you have a robust exercise regime (yoga, aerobic, dancing), you switch to healthier food options etc…but you still cannot lose weight despite all these actions. Is there something wrong?
Then you should ask yourself whether there is something holding you back: could it be that you are afraid to be slim and pretty for fear that your friends might be jealous of you? or you don’t feel worthy of being seen as slim and beautiful?
Or is it that you are afraid to deal with the consequences of being slim: maybe you have to buy new clothes all over again and potentially spend more money?
These are questions you need to ask yourself and why it is holding you back from achieving a physical result.
The key is to be honest with yourself on the conscious and subconscious level.
Dealing with your subconscious fears is not easy but it can be done.
Once you have identified those fears, find solutions for them.
Because once you know how to deal with the problem, you are no longer afraid of it.
All you need to do is be really honest with yourself and be aware if you have some hidden fears inside of you.
The key is to ask the right questions and identify the fear that might not be obvious on the surface.